Mayameen Meftahi is the Founder of She Can Consultancy and #IfSheCanICan Campaign. She Can Consultancy is her Independent Business by way of a Social Enterprise, providing Consultancy, Professional Training and Speaking in Sexual Violence and Psychological Trauma.
In 2018, Mayameen waived her right to lifelong Anonymity as a Child Sexual Abuse Survivor, the story broke in That’s Life Magazine, and within a matter of days, Mayameen had received an out pour of support, including 21 Survivors reaching out and sharing their stories.
Paving the way to Law Change
Upon waiving Anonymity, Mayameen launched her National Campaign #IfSheCanICan to provide a national platform for Survivors to speak out safely and to campaign for Systematic Law Changes & Sharpened Victim Protection.
Campaigning against Injustice by way of Petitioning and Advocating.
Originally born in South East England, Mayameen had an array of career paths, including her main career as a Legal Secretary in a Criminal Law Firm. Travelling a passion, Mayameen settled for a number of years in Tunisia with her husband, working as an English Teacher, and has always been a self-driven Entrepreneur, establishing businesses along her Journey.
In 2009, Mayameen suffered a severe birth trauma, enduring paralysis and requiring reconstructive surgery a year later, due to medical negligence and obstetric violence.
“I didn’t feel like a woman anymore, I felt mutilated”
In 2011, Mayameen began her Journey as a Psychotherapist/Counsellor, working with women affected by Abuse and Rape. Still feeling unsatisfied with her career path, Mayameen went on to become an NLP Practitioner, this resonated with her practical approach to recovery.
Using her lived experience, qualifications and professional experiences supporting women affected by various forms of Trauma, she went on to write her Bespoke 7 week PTSD and Anxiety Recovery Program, that has proven success with women and professionals alike.
“I had to find a way to deal with my trauma and to make my wounds worth it”
In 2012, another traumatic incident occurred that triggered her childhood trauma (this traumatic event was always kept secret but was in fact the sentencing of her father to prison). Mayameen embraced religion and this journey led her to encounter Female Genital Mutilation. Her plight began in the fight against both FGM and Sexual Exploitation working endlessly to support victims, her greatest moment as she advocated for an FGM Victim and sat at the end of the hospital bed empowering this young girl to give birth, despite all the trauma she was reliving at that moment.
As a Public Speaker, Mayamen has embraced many an opportunity with taking the stage as a TEDX Speaker in 2016, whereby she talked about her own birth trauma and that of Fatima’s story above.
Despite all this, the true story to Mayameen’s driven passion was still secret, the soul still weighing heavily as Mayameen supported many women, either via her recovery program or through Advocating.
In 2018, it was time to break the silence…
Her Story Began, as she Suffered but Survived…
Shaming the silence, Mayameen decided to waive her Anonymity, spiralled by the upcoming release of her father the first week of May 2018, after he was Sentenced to a 10 year imprisonment, yet only serving 6 1/2 years of his sentence, he was due to be released.
With the onset of what was about to happen, in March 2018 Mayameen had an instinct to google his name… the headline appearing: UPDATE: Chelmsford prisoner found on fire died by accident…
In 2011, whilst away on holiday, Mayameen received the most life changing telephone call, that her father ‘had been arrested, you are now safe’…
20+ years on into her life, Mayameen screamed as she collapsed to the floor ‘why now, why now, why are you trying to destroy my life, it’s too late’.
Returning from holiday, the events and entrenched sexual abuse and rape were to unfold. Never, could Mayameen have prepared herself for what she was about to learn, a deep entrenched history of power.
At the Hearing on the 8th March 2012 at Basildon Crown Court, Mr Colby pleaded ‘Guilty’ to:
Incest x 4
Indecent Assault on a Female x 8
Committing Gross Indency with a Child
Making Indecent Photographs or Pseudo-Photographs of a Child
Sentenced as follows:
Total Sentence of 10 years imprisonment less 224 days on remand
To sign the Sex Offenders Register Indefinitely
Forfeiture of Equipment and Forfeiture and Destruction of Drugs
Despite, Mayameen being in attendance at the sentencing, she was not needed in the case, as the harrowing evidence was stacked up high, in what was one of the most monumental cases for evidence.
As the Judge spoke of Mayameen’s amazing strength, of her innocence as a child, evilly ripped away by the one person who should have protected her.
Begrudgingly, sentencing Mr Colby on what was the maximum sentence for historical child abuse.
Evidence in this case consisted of:
60+ hours of Video Footage
CCTV Equipment with cameras installed in the bedroom light bulb fittings
Transmitters placed in plug sockets
A harrowing black Diary
Had I ever had one tiny inkling that I could have been believed, I would have saved myself. What I endured, was one of the worst hell’s of my life, and it literally consumed my every single day for as long as a I can remember, I was never given a chance to be a child, or a teenager. I was a lamb to slaughter, day in and day out. I was told, that I was lucky to be alive due to the extreme abuse Let alone, in 2011 finding out by the police day by day, as more and more evidence came to light, that I could have been saved.
In the words of Abbey, my amazing officer in the case, whom I will always hold much love and respect, ‘if you read it in a book, it would seem to far fetched, only it’s real, and you lived it’
And so I end it here for now… as I write that book…
Media & coverage
ITV WALES Interview LAUNCHES THE CAMPAIGN…
Abuse survivor calls for Child Houses for children suffering sexual abuse in Wales
Read the full article here
New! Magazine Feature the story…
“Survivors should not be forced to live in fear. I hope my story will inspire others victims to report their abusers. My dad may have robbed me of my childhood, but I will not let his actions dictate the rest of my life”