Mayameen Meftahi (MASC P.Th & NLP) is a Multi Award-Winning Trauma Specialist & Sexual Violence Expert by Lived Experience, Independent Advocate, Fitness Instructor & TEDx Speaker. Mayameen is the Founder of She Can Consultancy and Creator of the ‘I Can’ Self-Help Journal and ‘I Can’ Positive Brand.
Providing specialist practical and emotional support to organisations and individuals.
Mayameen has been working in the field of Sexual Violence and Psychological Trauma, since 2011.
In 2018, Mayameen hit the media by waiving her right to lifelong Anonymity as a Child Sexual Abuse Survivor, becoming an International Public Figure. The story broke in That’s Life Magazine, and within a matter of days, Mayameen had received an out pour of support, with hundreds of Survivors reaching out to share their story, whilst a short video made by Mayameen that morning, shared on Facebook had over 15k views.
Paving the way to Law Change
Upon waiving Anonymity, Mayameen launched her National Campaign #IfSheCanICan to provide a national platform for Survivors to speak out safely and to campaign for Systematic Law Changes & Sharpened Victim Protection.
Successfully Campaigning against Injustice by way of Petitioning, Advocating and launching Movements. Mayameen has left a Legacy in Wales as her Child House Petition created a change in Bill and the motion was agreed for the first Child Refuge.
Originally born in South East England, Mayameen had an array of career paths, including her main career as a Legal Secretary in a Top Criminal Law Firm in Essex. Travelling a passion, Mayameen settled for a number of years in Tunisia with her husband, working as an English Teacher, and has always been a self-driven Entrepreneur, establishing businesses along her Journey.
In 2009, Mayameen suffered a severe birth trauma, enduring paralysis and requiring reconstructive surgery a year later, due to medical negligence and obstetric violence. Mayameen was compensated for this and the surgeon was removed from practicing, however this had a major impact of her well-being and the road to recovery was challenging.
“I didn’t feel like a woman anymore, I felt mutilated”
In 2011, Mayameen began her Journey as a Psychotherapist/Counsellor, working with women affected by Abuse and Rape. Still feeling unsatisfied with this choice as she felt that there was much more needed on the Journey of Recovery, Mayameen went on to become an NLP Practitioner, this resonated completely with her kick-ass, practical approach to recovery!
Using her lived experience, qualifications and professional experiences supporting women affected by various forms of Trauma, she went on to write her Bespoke 7 week PTSD and Anxiety Recovery Program, that has proven success with women and professionals alike.
“I had to find a way to deal with my trauma and to make my wounds worth it”
In 2012, another traumatic incident occurred that triggered her childhood trauma (this traumatic event was always kept secret but was in fact the sentencing of her father to prison). Mayameen embraced religion and this Journey led her to encounter Female Genital Mutilation. Her plight began in the fight against both FGM and Sexual Exploitation working endlessly to support victims. Her greatest moment, was advocating for a pregnant FGM, Multiple Rape and Forced Marriage Victim, being asked to attend her labour, was sat at the end of the hospital bed empowering this young girl to give birth, despite all the trauma she was reliving at that moment.
As a Public Speaker, Mayameen has embraced many an opportunity with taking the stage as a TEDX Speaker in 2016, whereby she talked about her own birth trauma and that of Fatima’s story above. Mayameen was then asked, to create a Video Campaign with Iqra TV & Al Khair Foundation for awareness of FGM in Islam.
Despite all this, the true story to Mayameen’s driven passion was still secret, the soul still weighing heavily as Mayameen supported many women, either via her recovery program or through Advocating.
In 2018, another turn of events, it was time to break the silence…
Her Story Began, as she Suffered but Survived…
Shaming the silence, Mayameen decided to waive her Anonymity, spiralled by the upcoming release of her father the first week of May 2018, after he was Sentenced to a 10 year imprisonment, yet only serving 6 1/2 years of his sentence, he was due to be released.
With the onset of what was about to happen, in March 2018 Mayameen had an instinct to google his name… the headline appearing: UPDATE: Chelmsford prisoner found on fire died by accident…
In 2011, whilst away on holiday, Mayameen received the most life changing telephone call, that her father ‘had been arrested, you are now safe’…
20+ years on into her life, Mayameen screamed as she collapsed to the floor ‘why now, why now, why are you trying to destroy my life, it’s too late’.
Returning from holiday, the events and entrenched sexual abuse and rape were to unfold. Never, could Mayameen have prepared herself for what she was about to learn, a deep entrenched history of power.
At the Hearing on the 8th March 2012 at Basildon Crown Court, Mr Colby pleaded ‘Guilty’ to:
Incest x 4
Indecent Assault on a Female x 8
Committing Gross Indency with a Child
Making Indecent Photographs or Pseudo-Photographs of a Child
Sentenced as follows:
Total Sentence of 10 years imprisonment less 224 days on remand
To sign the Sex Offenders Register Indefinitely
Forfeiture of Equipment and Forfeiture and Destruction of Drugs
Despite, Mayameen being in attendance at the sentencing, she was not needed in the case, as the harrowing evidence was stacked up high, in what was one of the most monumental cases for evidence.
As the Judge spoke of Mayameen’s amazing strength, of her innocence as a child, evilly ripped away by the one person who should have protected her.
Begrudgingly, sentencing Mr Colby on what was the maximum sentence for historical child abuse.
Evidence in this case consisted of:
60+ hours of Video Footage
CCTV Equipment with cameras installed in the bedroom light bulb fittings
Transmitters placed in plug sockets
A harrowing black Diary
Had I ever had one tiny inkling that I could have been believed, I would have saved myself. What I endured, was one of the worst hell’s of my life, and it literally consumed my every single day for as long as a I can remember, I was never given a chance to be a child, or a teenager. I was a lamb to slaughter, day in and day out. I was told, that I was lucky to be alive due to the extreme abuse Let alone, in 2011 finding out by the police day by day, as more and more evidence came to light, that I could have been saved.
In the words of Abbey, my amazing officer in the case, whom I will always hold much love and respect, ‘if you read it in a book, it would seem to far fetched, only it’s real, and you lived it’
And so I end it here for now… as I write that book…
ITV WALES Interview LAUNCHES THE CAMPAIGN…
Abuse survivor calls for Child Houses for children suffering sexual abuse in Wales
Read the full article here
New! Magazine Feature the story…
“Survivors should not be forced to live in fear. I hope my story will inspire others victims to report their abusers. My dad may have robbed me of my childhood, but I will not let his actions dictate the rest of my life”
Wales online interview, that escalated national awareness…
The police called me when I was on holiday to tell me they’d found videos of my dad raping me as a child…
BBC Wales & BBC NEWS INTERVIEW…
Abuse survivor wants ‘child houses’ in Wales.
Maya Meftahi suffered years of abuse as a child and now wants to create safe places for young victims to turn to.
The Sun: fabulous article
My dad filmed himself raping me from the age of FOUR, drugged my hot chocolate and even had a secret sex shrine to me in the attic…
Researching Reform Interview
CHANNEL 5 DOCUMENTARY
One in 20 UK children have been sexually abused, and 90% of this abuse occurs by someone the victim knows-yet a third of the abused don’t tell anyone.
Natasha, Emily and Mayameen give poignant first-hand accounts of their childhoods and how they have created new lives for themselves following years of being abused by their dads.
Mayameen along her intriguing and inspiring Journey, has achieved many milestones, as a Campaigner and Advocate against Sexual Violence.
Mayameen has been bringing awareness and making changes on a National Level to: Save Children from Sexual Abuse, Sharpen Victim Protection and Review Sentencing Guidelines.
No one heard her silent cries, but they will hear her pained voice as she raises the platform for Survivors. And yours can be heard too!
Mayameen has left a Legacy in Wales, as her Child House Petition was successful by way of creating
Bill change in Policy and the motion agreed for the first Child Refuge.You can view the timeline and success of her Campaign here.
You can see more of Mayameen’s Public Speaker milestones here.
Mayameen Meftahi is a Sole Trader, trading as She Can Consultancy and a Certified Social Enterprise, with Social Enterprise UK.
A social business, that with profit made from any paid services, provides at least 15 Free places for women in crisis to attend our PTSD & Anxiety Trauma Recovery Program.
Whilst also providing access to Free advice and support daily.